"Balance And Boundaries"

Should I build a concrete wall around me to protect myself? Or should I place a flexible, pliable, and supple wall around me that helps create balance from the outside demands of others? When do I say “yes” and when do I say “no”? When does self indulgence become narcissism instead of simply just self care?
Well, I believe balance comes into play when setting healthy boundaries. For example, as a mother, I need to balance spending time with my child, taking care of my own needs, nurturing friendships, and working so I am able to support my family. It is very tricky, because if I just spend too much time at work, I could neglect my son and friendships and housework. If I socialize too much or spend too much time away from the home, my son and home could suffer. It is a constant balancing act, constantly getting back on track, and prioritize what is important and not important.
Demands from work, relatives, and friends can ultimately get us off course and we can end up neglecting our own lives to take care of or rescue others. This ultimately is a recipe for disaster because resentment and anger usually comes into play when we neglect our own soul’s desires for what we need to do for ourselves !
When we say “no” rather than “yes” we can get flack from those around us who are use to us taking care of their responsibilities, feelings, and problems. When we change, others may intensify their feelings of guilt tripping or badgering us. Don’t let that become an opportunity to let that pull you back into your old ways! Stay firm and do not give the flack that much attention, it will eventually die down!
Life is not a dress rehearsal. I know many people who have sacrificed their lives doing for others and ultimately became resentful or angry towards themselves and with others. Setting boundaries is about balance. Taking care of ourselves first but in turn not neglecting our friends or family is essential. Saying “no” to others more often and saying “yes” to our souls desire will create a more fulfilling life without resentment! It is important that while taking care of ourselves we can find the balance with self care. Meanwhile, it is essential to follow our inner guidance and avoid self serving in a narcissistic way! Balance is the ultimate answer to this riddle of boundaries!